Give yourself some whitespace
Whitespace in a webpage is the area that is blank, usually between sections and columns. It is very important because it creates breathing space, makes the webpage easy for the eyes and emphasises the key elements on a page. That's similar to our life. We need to create space for ourselves so that we don't feel stressed and gain clarity of what is important. How to create whitespace? Schedule it on your calendar. It can be early in the morning or before bed. I call it "me time". During your "me time", you should disconnect yourself from your work, social media and any household responsibility. Put yourself front and centre and think about your goals for that day.
Turn tasks into goals
Remember, a goal isn't a to-do list. A goal should be something meaningful to you. For example, if you are a parent, one of your to-dos might be taking your kid to school. It sounds like a chore but you can turn it into a goal: today I am going to take my kid to school and talk about what he or she likes doing in school. I want to get to know him or her better. You don't need to make your entire day purpose-driven, just try to turn 3 chores or tasks into goals or part of bigger goals, slowly you will start gaining clarity.
Declutter your space
I always believe in "a busy place, a busy mind" so I always try to keep my house and my workspace tidy and organised. It helps me eliminate distractions and gives me the sense that I am in control. If you are not an organised person or can't find the time to tidy up your workspace, that's ok. Take it one step at a time and start with some small cleaning - declutter your desk and throw away all the old notes and post-its. Collect all documents in a folder and do the sorting and filing in a week (remember to schedule a reminder!). If you do it bit by bit every day, within a month, you will definitely feel more relaxed and focused when you are working.
Ask for help
Sometimes we can feel so lost that we just don't know what to do. It happened to me after working for 15 years. I was frustrated that I was doing the same things every day and couldn't see that I was progressing. I simply didn't know what to do because I knew that if I changed my job, just any job, the only differences would be a different job title, a different salary and a different boss. So what did I do? I asked for help. A university professor helped me see a bigger picture instead of focusing on the problem in front of me. When we ask for help from a mentor, a coach or even a friend, we won't only get emotional support but also advice and the lesson they learnt from their experience. It helps identify what is important in the situation and is worthwhile of our time and energy.
Losing focus happens to everyone and life can be so hectic that we only have the bandwidth to deal with what is right in front of us, just try to stay afloat. Sometimes the only way out of this situation is to gain absolute clarity. My last tip for you is to take good care of yourself. Self-care can improve our concentration, stress and anxiety. Always remember that you need to nourish to flourish.
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